Moving in the military can be viewed as something to endure and struggle through, but what if it is actually something to embrace and celebrate?

I’ve often heard other military kids talk about how moving is negative. They talk about leaving behind friends, familiar places, and comfortable routines, which can feel like losing a part of your life. I get it. Going to a new school and starting over can feel intimidating… I’ve been there more times than I could count! But I also like looking on the other side of things. Moving frequently has shown me that change isn’t something to fear; it’s actually one of the most valuable experiences of my 16 years of life.

I have lived in Türkiye, England, Washington State, New Jersey, New Mexico, Germany, and now Minot. And I’ve been to school in five of those places. Yes, it sounds overwhelming, but I’ve learned how to become more adaptable and open minded to different perspectives. When I lived in Germany, I traveled to more than 30 countries! I’ve seen countless cultures, people, and traditions, and I was able to experience all of this because I’m a military child. I’ve had the opportunity to appreciate the people and the places I encountered along the way.
That sentiment is why I agree with military children being represented as dandelions. Though moving can be daunting, military brats are always ready to pack up and start somewhere new. Where the wind blows, we follow, just like dandelion seeds. We’re always ready to take root somewhere new and share our laughter, joy, and experiences with the world. Like dandelion seeds, military kids learn to adapt to unfamiliar soil and unfamiliar places. I’ve been there, and it’s not as horrible as some people make it out to be.

Of course, every place comes with its own unique challenges. There have been times when I’ve had to meet new people, figure out my surroundings, and grow accustomed to a brand-new routine. These changes felt overwhelming, but over time, I have become better at handling them.

After moving multiple times, I’ve learned that unfamiliar doesn’t have to mean uncomfortable forever. I know that when I’m placed into a brand-new environment, I can adjust and reorient myself, finding my place in the community. I’ve done it before, and I can do it again. This is a skill all military brats develop. It’s not a skill that every child has, and I’m proud that I do. It’s important to shift your mindset; instead of being afraid of change, you have to learn to expect it and work with it.

Moving has also allowed me to experience different perspectives. Moving anywhere exposes you to different people, values, cultures, and traditions. Although staying in one place gives you a strong connection to your community, moving allows you to see how different communities live and think. Meeting people from different backgrounds has shown me that there isn’t one “right” way to see the world. As every place I move to gives me a new perspective to consider, those perspectives add up, helping me become more open-minded and understanding of the people around me.

Another benefit of moving is the independence that develops. After my sixth move, I started to realize that I can’t always wait for someone else to make things comfortable for me. I had to introduce myself, make new friends, and put myself out there. But I’ve also learned that these lessons won’t only apply to my life now. I might not move from New Mexico to Germany and adjust to a new middle school again, but I might use these lessons later on in life, because I’ve learned how to walk into a room where I don’t know anyone and still find a way to belong.
When you know that a place won’t be your home forever, ordinary routines and moments begin to feel more special. I have started to realize that everything I experience will become a memory I will eventually carry. Leaving doesn’t erase those experiences; instead, each move becomes another chapter in my life. You may leave your town, but you don’t leave behind everything it taught you.

Moving isn’t easy though. There are difficult times, sad goodbyes, and moments where I wished that everything could stay the same. But this is the exact reason why moving is so valuable. It taught me that I can handle change, that I can build connections again, and that I can carry my experiences with me, wherever I go.
But I’ve learned that the most important lesson of all is this: staying in one place can give me roots, but moving has given me wings.

Are you a military dependent with thoughts on military life or living in North Dakota? We’d love to hear from you! While this column isn’t intended as a space for complaints, we’re looking for thoughtful, honest perspectives on the experiences, challenges, and unique moments that come with this lifestyle. If you have a topic idea or are interested in writing a column, email Erin.Beene@willowtreemarketing.com.